the view from out here (on Planet My-Baby-Died)

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I don’t get close to these women at prenatal yoga. I stay on the periphery of conversations, my mat in the corner of the room. I am so far from all of them. Looking down at the marble of the Earth from this planet I inhabit now. I see the beautiful blues and greens of that world. I remember living there, once.

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at the kitchen table: connecting through loss

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1. We know that sometimes families talk less and less about pregnancy or infant loss as time goes on. What, if any, other losses in your family were revealed to you after your loss? What was it like to hear about those losses?

2. Did anyone who had already experienced babyloss reach out to you in the months after your loss? What was it like to connect with others who had already been through babyloss?

3. If any of those babylost parents were from a different generation, what did you find was different about your experience from theirs?

4. Did you attend a local area support group after your loss? What was helpful--or not--about your support group?

5. What role has the internet played in connecting you to other babylost parents? How has that been different from connections you may have made in person?

6. Many of us have found, as time goes on, that we are suddenly in the supporting role, as "experienced" babylost parents. How has reaching out to others with newer losses helped you in your grief journey?

7. How have you found yourself relating to other people's grief in general? What about people around you--friends, coworkers, neighbors--who have experienced the loss of other family members, not babies?

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